Normalize property names for zfs receive

It turns out, userland is much more happy with aliased property
names than the kernel is.

So let's normalize those to the expected names before we pass
them off.

Added a test case hacked up from the other recv -o/-x test that fails
on unpatched git and passes here.

Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Rich Ercolani <rincebrain@gmail.com>
Closes #12607
Closes #12609