net80211: try to fix IEEE80211_DEBUG_REFCNT builds

[bz]

Summary

Remove the KPI/KBI changes from ieee80211_node.h and always use the
macros to pass in func and LINE to the functions.
The actual implementations are prefixed by "_" rather than suffixed
by "_debug" as they no longer are "debug"-specific.

Some of the select functions were not actually using the passed in
func, line options; however they are calling other functions which
use them. Directly call the internal implementation in those cases
passing the arguments on.

Use a file-local debrefcnt_used define to mark the arguments unused
in cases when we compile without IEEE80211_DEBUG_REFCNT and hope the
toolchain is intelligent enough to not pass them at all in those cases.

Also _ieee80211_free_node() now has a conflict so make the previous
_ieee80211_free_node() the new __ieee80211_free_node().

Add IEEE80211_DEBUG_REFCNT to the NOTES file on amd64 to keep exercising
the option.

Discussed on: freebsd-wireless
Sponsored by: The FreeBSD Foundation
X-MFC: never

Test Plan

This is a first cut making the changes and make things compile.
There is a further question of usefulness on the current incarnation
and how much to extend and cleanup but that is left for later.