fusefs: shorten and consolidate sleeps

Some fusefs tests must sleep because they deliberately trigger a race, or
because they're testing the cache timeout functionality. Consolidate the
sleep interval in a single place so it will be easy to adjust. Shorten it
from either 500ms or 250ms to 100ms. From experiment I find that 10ms works
every time, so 100ms should be fairly safe.

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