libnv: optimize nvlist size calculation

If we had a multiple nvlist, during nvlist_pack, we calculated the size
of every nvlist separately. For example, if we had a nvlist with three
nodes each containing another (A contains B, and B contains C), we first
calculated the size of nvlist A (which contains B, C), then we calculate
the size of B (which contains C, notice that we already did the
calculation of B, when we calculate A), and finally C. This means that
this calculation was O(N!). This was done because each time we pack
nvlist, we have to put its size in the header
(the separate header for A, B, and C).

To not break the ABI and to reduce the complexity of nvlist_size,
instead of calculating the nvlist size when requested,
we track the size of each nvlist.

Reported by: pjd, kp
Tested by: kp

(cherry picked from commit 89d5cbb82294c8624e66f920d50353057ccab14b)