pf: fix pf divert-to loop

Resolved conflict between ipfw and pf if both are used and pf wants to
do divert(4) by having separate mtags for pf and ipfw.

Also fix the incorrect 'rulenum' check, which caused the reported loop.

While here add a few test cases to ensure that divert-to works as
expected, even if ipfw is loaded.

divert(4)
PR: 272770
MFC after: 3 weeks
Reviewed by: kp
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D42142