Make xattr dir truncate and remove in one tx

We need truncate and remove be in the same tx when doing zfs_rmnode on xattr
dir. Otherwise, if we truncate and crash, we'll end up with inconsistent zap
object on the delete queue. We do this by skipping dmu_free_long_range and let
zfs_znode_delete to do the work.

Signed-off-by: Chunwei Chen <david.chen@osnexus.com>
Signed-off-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
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