Fix unlinked file cannot do xattr operations

Currently, doing things like fsetxattr(2) on an unlinked file will result in
ENODATA. There's two places that cause this: zfs_dirent_lock and zfs_zget.

The fix in zfs_dirent_lock is pretty straightforward. In zfs_zget though, we
need it to not return error when the zp is unlinked. This is a pretty big
change in behavior, but skimming through all the callers, I don't think this
change would cause any problem. Also there's nothing preventing z_unlinked
from being set after the z_lock mutex is dropped before but before zfs_zget
returns anyway.

The rest of the stuff is to make sure we don't log xattr stuff when owner is
unlinked.

Signed-off-by: Chunwei Chen <david.chen@osnexus.com>