Fix dnode_hold_impl() soft lockup

Soft lockups could happen when multiple threads trying
to get zrl on the same dnode handle in order to allocate
and initialize the dnode marked as DN_SLOT_ALLOCATED.

Don't loop from beginning when we can't get zrl, otherwise
we would increase the zrl refcount and nobody can actually
lock it.

Reviewed by: Tom Caputi <tcaputi@datto.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Li Dongyang <dongyangli@ddn.com>
Closes #8433