Macroify teardown lock handling

This will allow platforms to implement it as they see fit, in particular
in a different manner than rrm locks.

Reviewed-by: Ryan Moeller <ryan@iXsystems.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Reviewed-by: Matt Macy <mmacy@FreeBSD.org>
Signed-off-by: Mateusz Guzik <mjguzik@gmail.com>
Closes #11153