Allocate zap_attribute_t from kmem instead of stack

This patch is preparatory work for long name feature. It changes all
users of zap_attribute_t to allocate it from kmem instead of stack. It
also make zap_attribute_t and zap_name_t structure variable length.

Reviewed-by: Tony Hutter <hutter2@llnl.gov>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Reviewed-by: Alexander Motin <mav@FreeBSD.org>
Signed-off-by: Chunwei Chen <david.chen@nutanix.com>
Closes #15921